TMS - Typical Male Syndrome

So I just spent the last 45minutes reading a post and all its comments on a site I belong to called MomsLikeMe.com. It started with a Stay at Home Mom [SAHM] talking about how annoyed she was with her husband and how he DOES work but when he comes home he has a tendency to pass out RIGHT before doing his chores. I squealed in delight to know I wasn't alone in this, then decided I had to blog it! My BD [baby daddy] does have a very strenuous job, and will sometimes have 60-70 hour weeks working for a moving company. Right now is the "slow season" though so he is lucky to get a 20 hour week. I won't lie, I spoil my man. On a normal day that he has to work I get up with Dylan if he gets up before we do. I take Dyl in the other room so daddy can get as much sleep as possible. On those days I usually make him some breakfast and hot tea. Now on an off chance Dyl sleeps late I just let BD get up on his own, kiss him goodbye as he leaves and I will go back to sleep until Dylan gets me up. Days BD works I do it all. Clean the house, do dishes, put away laundry, scrub toilet, and EVEN have dinner ready when he gets home. The house gets the spotless treatment about twice a week, thats the whole shebang, vaccuming and dusting, you know the whole nine-yards. The house will be lookin great and smelling great until he gets home. First thing he always does is take his shirt and socks off in the bed room. Here is hamper [] here is where they end up >>> ___. Two feet away from the hamper. Ok, ok, ok.... I pick 'em up right away so I don't get upset. I put them in the hamper and kiss him. Then he sits down on the couch, OR at the computer. Thats where he will remain until food is served. We just recently got a dining room table so we eat there EVERY night. So he will come in the kitchen and get Dylan in his high chair, and help with feeding him. Fast forward to dinner being done. Dylan takes a bath RIGHT after dinner every night, its part of his routine. So this is when the tooth pulling begins. "Baby, will you give Dylan a bath while I clean up the kitchen?" Fair trade right? 10minute bath vs. 30minute kitchen mess. I think he gets the "fun" job, so I expect no complaints. 6 times out of 10 he will jump up and get to it no problem. But the other 4 times when he SIGHS and complains and says things like "Can you tonight baby? I am soooo tired".... I hate that response. I am tired too but SURE I will bathe him AND clean the kitchen why the heck not! Now I don't want this to turn in to a BASH on BD post but.... as one of the Stay at Home Dad's wrote on that page... theres a female comedy that says "Load the dishwasher, thats SUCH a turn on!". It is completely the truth. He will have four or five days off in a row sometimes and will just lay around. Like he is God of the house. I get that he deserves a day off when he works so hard... but when is MY day off? He has NEVER once on his own gotten up with Dylan one morning and played with him in the livingroom while cooking me breakfast like I do weekly for him. I don't get to "blow" money on pedicures or my hair, but he gets to go golfing and get a 12 pack of beer and ciggerettes whenever he wants. How does that work. I can't wait for the day he sets his alarm for a MOMMY day. I would love to see him do my job. Wake up with Dylan one day so I could sleep in and have a "day off". Then just chase him and the puppy around all day while I sat by the pool and painted my nails. Then he could cook dinner AND clean it all up WHILE bathing Dylan because I don't wana.

Granted he has amazing qualities.... He will go get me tampons, or a random pregnancy test when I get worried. He will even do the dishes on occasion after only asking him 3 times nicely. He takes out the trash all on his own, after it is overflowing BUT he gets it out. He can fix ANYTHING. He will go to church if I beg him. He DOES help with laundry on laundry day! He will do just about any chore if I ask a few times. (Would be nice if I didn't have to ask.. BUT you know how that goes) He will rock Dylan to sleep at least one night a week. Especially when he sees I am stressed out. There are more.. but I can't think of them right now haha

I love him. It is so tiring living with him, but I know I couldn't live with out him. I spoil him, so it is my fault. Maybe he will read this and one day give me a surprise of doing the dishes on his own, bathing Dylan without me asking, putting Dyl to bed without the nagging and complaining. Would be nice. Hint Hint! hehe